but guys are cool. i’m a guy. i wish someone would date me. bring me nice places. compliment my new hair-doo. buy my tacos & pay for the check while i’m in the bathroom. send me comedically timed unexpected emojis - you know, date stuff.
What do you think of Rob Kardashian's weight gain? Please don't limit yourself to the media's reaction, the patriarchy, celebrity culture, body image, the performative aspects of gender, masculine signifiers, semiotics, critical theory, Armenian diaspora, or anything else.
is living in nyc as intense as everyone makes it seem? ppl always say "everyone is fighting to survive here" and use other really dramatic statements to describe their experience.
everyone is fighting to survive everywhere. i am very very fortunate. i have a family member with deep roots here in the new york, so moving here was not as difficult an experience for me as it is for many. but its still certainly no leisurely stroll. noone slows down here, for anything. and its easy to get wrapped up into that. its for some people & very much not for others.
i'm moving to nyc in a few months. do you have a favorite spot in the big city where you can just relax from all the hectic chaos around you? maybe a place in central park or a specific cafe? thanks x
i do. i think thats an important part of city culture. i spend much of my weekday’s working from cafe’s or home. theres a small, rather poorly run and incredibly slow paced coffee shop on the lower east side called Cocoa Bar. for the life of me, i have absolutely no idea how they stay in business. everything is insanely cheap and it’s seldom full. it takes 6 minutes to get a coffee, even if its empty. but the place is just so damn charming. they play all sorts of bizarre music and throw open the doors even when it’s cold. the staff is just so god damn charming in an ‘sort of odd’ way that i cant stop going back. i dont even drink coffee.
theres a small park near my apartment on avenue B (btwn 5th & 6th) that just reopened after Sandy. Its divided up into wait-listed gardening plots and theres always so much organic city movement there. people from all over - real locals. no young kids worried about what other people look like, or whose looking at them. under a big tree there’s a bin of random books, on the other side there is a little turtle pond. its fucking perfect. i ate lunch there today and lost myself. shout out to Merideth Genin who i spoke to today for about 30 minutes - if anyone needs a holistic health educator living in the east village since 82’ - you let me know.
just kidding, doesnt matter - noone in new york has any money anyway. drinks are like $17 here.
but a lot goes into living in/around nyc - i lucked out being in the east village, i love it. but its small and minimal. friends in brooklyn are probably better off in terms of overall living quality, but i have convenience on my side.
or, you can live a nice quiet upper manhattan life. very sophisticated like. museums & bars that close at 11pm, bad deli’s and department stores.
or you could live in hells kitchen and eat cheap sushi & and curse times square.
or you could live in murray hill and wear a backwards hat and wide chinos.
or you could live in the financial district and never be able to catch a cab past 6pm & have noone know the streets you live on. but i think you have to wear a suit all the time, like to bed & stuff. i’m not sure. some people call it “FiDi” but those people wear suits to bed.
or you could live on the lower east side & buy drugs from your neighbor and smell sort of funny. not bad, just funny.
or you could live harlem & have white people be impressed with your commitment to live in NYC and say things like “wow, 121st street? do trains even go up that high LOL” (but they actually verbalize the acronym)
or you could live in the west village & have a hip cool job in fashion or art and try to maintain the idea that the west village is a “neighborhood” and “so nice” (it is, i’m just lime green jello)
fuck it, live near me - in fact, move in with me. we can split the cost of drinks.
I'm a little impressed that you dress down with the monk straps so well. I can't make it work in my mind but you pull it off.
i actually often catch flack for wearing ‘dress shoes’ as sneakers so often, but in my mind, the more beat up the shoe - the better. i try to stay around the $200 price point on my shoes, because then i truly can do anything in them with little regard for their condition. i get them resoled and heeled whenever needed, but other then that - i let it roll. needs to be the right style monk as well. part of the reason i love meermins is because they have very very little embellishment - giving them a casual option.